As humans, we don’t just get angry because we are not
animals which cannot think. Anger is often used as a protective measure or
reaction aimed at covering up our fears, hurts, or sadness.
Being angry with others is no news today. Feelings of anger
arise most times due to how we interpret and react to certain situations. While
everyone has their own reason for getting angry, there are common reasons
people hold for getting angry. Sometimes, people get angry because they have
lost their patience, after having the incapability to control themselves.
Others, too, get angry because they feel that their hard work is not
appreciated or that they have been treated unjustly. We also get angry because
we develop memories of traumatic events we can no longer control effectively.
Others complain that they always have feelings
of anger because they are hypervigilant. Another reason why we also get angry
is because of our personal history or past experiences.
But is it right to always get angry? What could it result to
if we always get angry with others or even, with ourselves? If anger is
addressed healthily, it is very good for our health. Anger also helps some
individuals to become more rational. But if your anger is not expressed
healthily or properly, it leads to so many problems you may later regret.
Getting angry affects the brain, if you didn’t know this, please know it now.
“But how does anger affect the brain?”
You may ask. When anger is not expressed healthily, it can lead to heart attack and stroke risk. Two years ago, in
2017, a family lost their father as a result of anger which led to cardiac
arrest. This is one reason why people shouldn’t get angry unnecessarily.
Self-reflected anger (anger directed at oneself) is discovered to have negative
impacts on your health if not properly controlled — it can lead to several
mental disorders. These are some
important reasons why we shouldn’t get angry unnecessarily.
But, then, is it possible to control our anger? The answer
is capital YES! How can we control our anger, even when it seems chronic? I
will share with you all some important tips to help you control your anger
Adequately Before Taking Action
One of the best tips to remain calm under the heated pressure to get angry is
thinking before acting. Most people always look behind the window and get angry
easily. But thinking about the reasons why the person in question hurt you, why
he spoke or did such a horrible thing will help you understand the right step
to take before acting. By doing this, you will definitely be assured of taking
the right action. And, it will help you ward off saying or doing things you
will later regret.
Yourself In The Person’s Shoes
Some people tend to understand possible reasons why others often step on their
toes. This is because they never thought it wise to always shift the blame to
others — which can result in the outburst of anger. Rather, they always put
themselves in their shoes — thinking of the possible reasons they were hurt — instead
of thinking of what to do in order to revenge. This has helped them to have a
peaceful relationship with others wherever they are.
- Take A
This is another important factor that makes you more comfortable and easy-going
in life. Taking a timeout to think carefully about the situation is one way to
put yourself in their shoes. Taking a break off the situation can help you feel
better prepared to handle the situation better without feeling irritated.
Some individuals are angry because of being victims of serial aggressors. If you have found yourself in this situation,
one way to get the heat off your head is by taking a methodical step. Acting
decisively will help in reducing your sense and increasing the peaceful
atmosphere you once enjoyed.
Your Feelings With Someone You Trust
Sharing how you feel about a situation will suffice. Do you have a trusted
friend with whom you can share the way you feel about a particular situation,
how you get angry whenever you see that person talking in a way that shows he
is very insipid? It is imperative you share things with a trusted friend
because this will help you know the right step to take, perhaps, the best steps
you never thought of taking.
Is The Best Answer
It is best you stop talking when you are steamed because the possibility is
that you are more likely to do more harm than good. Being silent at that moment
is the best thing you could do to maintain calmness.
Possible Solutions To The Problem
Instead of being angry, it is best you look for ways to improve the situation
for good. It may be that your friend always does something you don’t like. Why
don’t you look for ways to adjust to the situation, to suit it? A wave of chronic anger does not improve
anything — this is what you ought to know.
If you keep all these tips in mind, you will have a peaceful
relationship with others and will never regret living a life of harmony. They
can also improve your overall health, helping you view things the right way
instead of looking for ways to shift the blames to others.