What will be your next
reaction if somebody behind you says they have cancer? Of course, your next
reaction is how the person in question got the disease and if he’s going to
survive. So many people, especially women, are suffering from cancer—the most
common being cancer of the breast. While promising technology and science
advances are coming up to absolutely terminate cancers, there are cancers that
can’t be cured and can lead to death within a short period of time which is
very unpredictable. These cancers are, in fact, deadly than stroke. When it
gets to a stage where a person’s cancer can’t be cured thus, sending them to
the land of no return, we say the person has terminal cancer.
Any type of
cancer can be terminal. So whether you have pancreatic, Non-Hodgkin lymphoma,
leukemia, prostate, or ovarian cancer, it can be termed a ‘terminal cancer’ if
it has no cure.
Cancer causes cells to divide without control. It also has the capacity to prevent them from dying at the natural point in their life cycle. Cancer has the capacity to spread elsewhere in the body—which makes it difficult to cure because cancer cells may have spread but too small to not be seen on scans.
However, you can
actually manage your cancer emotionally even if it’s terminal. Here are ways
you can help do that well.
One of the major feelings people with terminal cancer have is fear. They don’t
know when they will die, whether sooner or later. Since the disease is
terminal, the probability of knowing when death will come is very slim. But
this feeling can be dealt with successfully even if you don’t know when death
will come. Knowing exactly what you are afraid of can help you cope with the
situation better. For example, some people are afraid of being alone, they feel
they will be neglected. But it’s advisable you talk to your family and dear
friends. They understand more than you think they do.
The motto of humanity is “I would rather suffer than die.” It is true that nobody
wants to die and hearing that they have just a short period of time to live and
enjoy the rest of their life can be very embarrassing to patients with terminal
cancer. This may lead to anger. It’s good to express your feeling but doesn’t feel so angry at those who are very
close to you, thinking they played a part in your disease. Instead of directing
your anger to your loved ones, try as much as possible to channel your anger to
problem-solving, use it as fuel to help get your needs met and do positive
- Regret and Guilt
You feel regret that you didn’t take the right step, so the cancer was caused
because of the wrong step you took. You feel guilty that you will be leaving
your family without having someone to care for them adequately as you do. This
feeling is also normal. However, spend the last days you have with your family
and don’t feel regret or guilt because these are things you don’t have the
power to control again.
This is another thought those with terminal cancer have. They begin to seek the
purpose of their being on the earth in the first place especially if they are
very young. Yes, this feeling is expected to take root in the mind of the
individual. Nevertheless, it is best you look for something that is important
to you and you have cherished for so long. Also, take out time to share your
experiences, thoughts, and wisdom with your family and friends. These things
you share with them will, no doubt, have a lasting impression on them.
- Anxiety and
Those with terminal cancer will always feel anxious over their situation. Depression
goes more than just feeling sad. You will also notice the patient feeling
hopeless, useless, and having no joy in any activities. Yes, it is true that anxiety
and depression are expected but if they get severe, the patient has to be
treated with medicine or counseling. Seeing a counselor or a health care
provider is imperative.